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Counselor Spotlight - Emilee Maxwell, LPC-Associate, Supervised by Lauren Coats, LPC-S

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Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area? 

I knew I wanted to be a counselor since I got my first job as a Registered Behavior Technician in college. I received my undergraduate education from Texas A&M with a bachelor of science in Psychology. I then went on to Southern Methodist University for graduate school where I received my M.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I have lived in Rockwall since I was 11 so I say I half grew up here! 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why? 

I am most passionate about working with kids and teens. I believe all people need support at some point in their lives, and early intervention is so important to live a well-adjusted adult life.

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I have always dreamed of being a hair and make up artist! Maybe one day :) 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money? 

Invest in yourself, it's worth it! Even counselors have counselors. :) 

Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

I was a cat person until my teenage years and am fully converted to a dog person! I blame my parents for all those years of making me clean the litter box LOL

Do pineapples belong on pizza? 

I like them on there, but have to be in the mood!

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall? 

Chiloso, forever and always!

What do you like to do in your free time? 

I like to spend time with my husband, our two dogs, go on walks, and read books!

What’s your favorite time of year? 

Christmas time. Which for me is November - January :) 

Tell us a little about your family. 

I was raised with 3 older brothers which automatically meant I was protected and spoiled! We all live close by which I am grateful for. I married my best friend in April of this year, and he is the best person I know! We have two fur babies, a golden retriever named Honey and a cocker spaniel mix named Lillie. I am blessed with the best family!

What is your favorite place to visit? 

Either Steamboat Springs or St. Thomas! 

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why? 

My grandma! She was my best friend. I would love to tell her all I have accomplished so far in life and see her smile back at me. I miss her everyday!

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

Always been an extrovert, but as I get older I'd say I'm a happy medium!

Counselor Spotlight: Darla Ferreira, Relationship Coach

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Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would love for you to get to know one of our Relationship Coaches, Darla Ferreira. An expert in Laura Doyle’s six intimacy skills, Darla takes the transformation of her own marriage and helps women break through stagnancy in their relationships to gain intimacy and closeness in their relationships. We are so thankful for her expertise and passion! If you're interested in learning more about Relationship Coaching with Darla, click the link at the bottom of her interview.

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

Thirteen years into marriage I found Laura Doyle’s six intimacy skills by accident. At the time, my marriage wasn’t what I had dreamed of. I thought that I couldn’t feel “in love” again and have the intimacy for which I yearned. Our story had a fairytale start, but at one time my husband couldn’t even tell me he loved me. I tried the skills one by one and amazingly my love life changed. There was such a dramatic difference that I knew I had to become a relationship coach and allow as many women as possible to learn about the skills. I went through Laura Doyle’s relationship coaching program where I had to become an expert in the skills, apply them in depth, and prove the transformation in my own life in order to obtain certification.  

I am originally from Cajun country in South Louisiana (so you may hear a slight accent). My husband and I moved as a newlyweds to Texas in 2005 to help a pastor plant a church. I have a Bachelor of Science in Microbiology and minors in Chemistry and Political Science from LSU. I received my Doctor of Optometry degree from Southern College of Optometry in TN. 



What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I only coach women who would like a breakthrough in their relationship. By the wife showing up differently, the husband changes (even without his conscious effort). It’s a control free process. I’ve seen marriages healed and restored without the husband going to counseling. I help her see that she can only control what’s on her paper, and that’s what we focus on. 




If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

Well, I do have another job. I’m an optometrist most days. I have passion for vision in both optometry and coaching. 




What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

The main struggles I try to help clients with are ones I faced myself. I thought I was the most respectful wife out there. I was wrong. Being controlling or disrespectful wasn’t what I thought it looked like. I just didn’t know and wasn’t taught before learning the skills. I didn’t know being “helpful” in male language is being controlling. I thought it was my responsibility to help him with his life and choices. I thought it was his responsibility to make me happy. I didn’t take enough care of myself. I felt resentful. I wanted more time and attention. I can help a woman through a betrayal with dignity. These are the main struggles I help women in my sessions. 




Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I look up to my husband the most. I have so much genuine respect for him. He moved here from another country to marry me and now that I give him the respect and gratitude he deserves, he always rises to the occasion. I know I can trust him and turn to him when I need him, instead of trying to do too much. He takes care of our family. 




What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Stop helping your husband, Darla! Read The Empowered Wife. It’s not your husband’s responsibility to make you happy. You’re going to have the marriage you dreamed about. You’re going to have beauty for ashes. 



What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

You can change the whole course of your life. Divorce is expensive. Save your marriage, be less stressed, be a role model of a terrific marriage for your kids, have a peaceful household, and learn how to take care of yourself. It’s totally worth it. You do have to be willing to become your best self though. 



Are you a dog person or a cat person?

Dogs because of the unconditional love they give. I love a cat’s independence though. I’m allergic to both sadly. 



Do pineapples belong on pizza?

I love sweet and savory together, but not on my pizza. 



What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Kyoto for sushi



What do you like to do in your free time?

I like to read dystopian novels and watch period piece movies and series. I also love to take naps, shop, and take my little one to the library for story time. 



What’s your favorite time of year?

Fall



Tell us a little about your family.

I’ve been married for 18 years. I thought I was done having children after having an amazing daughter, but at 40, I had a baby boy. They are now 14 and 4. 



What is your favorite place to visit?

I love going on all-inclusive beach vacations to Mexico.  



If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

My great grandfather because my family recently learned some interesting things about him that have left a legacy for my family. 



Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

I’m introverted. 



Counselor Spotlight - Greg Stehman, LMFT

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Greg Stehman is one of the many LMFTs we are proud to have on staff here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. As a 28 year veteran of the US Navy, Greg brings an incredibly valuable life experience and wisdom to his patients. We are so glad to have him working with and helping those in our community. 

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I was born in PA, but grew up near Tyler, Texas. I attended Texas Tech University and received my undergraduate in Political Science.   I was commissioned in the US Navy and served for 28+ years.  After a series of life events, I decided to study Marriage & Family Therapy at Liberty University.     

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why? 

I am passionate about helping couples work through the trauma and chaos of infidelity and/or are dealing with sexual addiction.   I am also interested in helping others who struggle with anxiety, depression and PTSD.  As a veteran, I have personally experienced each of these areas.   

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

 I would love to be an author and write about my experiences in my 28 year military career. I would also like to co-author a book with my wife, Lori about our infidelity story.   

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

One of the biggest struggles facing infidelity couples are the questions such as,   “How do I deal with the effects of infidelity? Is there any hope for our marriage? How will I ever trust again? How do I deal with the pain caused by infidelity? I can’t stop thinking about the affair?”

In addition, there are so many pressures in today’s world and our daily lives can be quite complex and overwhelming. Many clients just need to work through a few issues to relieve the daily pressure of life and regain a sense of hopefulness.   

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My wife…she is very forgiving and the most patient person in my life.  She has sacrificed her career time and time again so that I could serve in the U.S. Navy. Lori is also extremely flexible as we have had over 20+ military moves in our     28 years of service.   Lori is an amazing mom to our two children and the perfect life partner for me.

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Seek help and do not keep your struggles to yourself.   

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

Therapy is the first step towards healing and the first step is always the hardest. Therapy can open the door to being seen, felt, understood and perhaps validated in your recovery journey.  Do not walk the journey alone.  Therapy can take time and money, but YOU are worth the investment. Be purposeful and intentional on your journey towards healing. 

What’s your favorite type of food? 

Too many….Thai, Korean BBQ, Vietnamese, and Mexican 

What do you like to do in your free time? 

Love to go to gym, hang out with family and friends, and try different restaurants

What’s your favorite time of year? 

Fall; nice crisp cool evenings and the leaves are changing colors 

Tell us a little about your family.

I have been married for 31 years and have a 27 year old son and a 24 year old daughter. 

What is your favorite place to visit?  

Asia, but specifically Vietnam. 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both? 

Definitely an introvert!



Counselor Spotlight - Natalie Shepherd, LPC-S, LMFT-S, RPT-S

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This week, Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would like to introduce you to Natalie Shepherd. Natalie works as an LPC-S, LMFT-S, and RPT-S. This means that in addition to caring for her own patients, she is also a huge asset to us in supervising new therapists as they complete their training. We are so thankful for Natalie’s expertise and passion, and we’d love for you to get to know her a bit more.



Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I knew in high school that I wanted to be a counselor. In high school, I enjoyed listening to my friends’ problems and trying to help them. They even referred to me as their counselor! I knew I wanted a job where I made a difference. As cheesy as it sounds, I have always said that I want to do my part to make the world a better place. I received my B.S. in Family Studies at Texas Tech. I received my M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy from TWU. I am a West Texas girl and grew up in Midland. After I graduated from Tech, most of my college friends moved to the Dallas area and I thought that sounded like a great idea. I met my husband in Dallas and we built our house and family in Rockwall. We have lived in Rockwall now for 19 years. 


What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am passionate about multiple areas. I love working with young children in play therapy. Play therapy often feels like a magical process and it’s amazing to see how quickly kids can make changes. I love working with parents to support them and help them feel better equipped. I love working with teens. Nothing keeps you on your toes or humbles you more than working with teens! I also love working with adults. It is so rewarding to walk alongside someone to help them with their goals and to support them. I like Solution Focused Therapy and Cognitive Behavior Therapy because I want people to feel that they are leaving each session with new tools. I love teaching people a technique called Tapping to help them manage strong emotions. 



If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I honestly can’t imagine doing anything else. I love my job. I love going to work. However, if I had any talent (which I don’t) I would love to be an actress in Broadway musicals. I love musicals and when I’m in the audience, I am smiling the entire time and wish I could jump on stage with them. 



What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

We are all still adjusting to a post-pandemic world and how that affected us. Kids and teens are experiencing anxiety and depression at higher rates than I’ve ever seen in my 23 years of counseling. As we all know now, technology has affected our kids greatly and has created many new challenges for families. I see many adults struggling with work/life balance and self care. I see many people figuring out how to cope with life transitions. Another common struggle is learning about boundaries and how to set them. 



Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My mom. She is a retired teacher. She taught me the value of education and hard work. She taught me independence and how to be assertive. She always had my back and didn’t hesitate to speak up on my behalf. She has been my rock and my support throughout every season of life. I wouldn’t be the person or the mother I am today without her influence. 



What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Oh, this is going to be so cliche but it’s so true: Don’t sweat the small stuff. I worried so much in my younger years. I would also tell my younger self to not compare my journey to anyone else’s journey. Stay true to yourself and work hard. 



What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

One statement that I hear repeatedly is people saying “I should have started this years ago.” People tend to minimize their experiences and feel that they have to “justify” going to therapy. I get to witness the power of therapy every day. I wish people knew how life changing it can be. It’s important to invest in yourself and therapy is one way to do that. I believe in making it more affordable for people to come by accepting several insurance plans. 



Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

Dogs all the way! I don’t understand cats. I love dogs. I’ve had dogs my entire life and always will. I currently have 2, a King Cavalier Spaniel named Ollie and a Yorkie mix named Lucy. 



Do pineapples belong on pizza?

I don’t have big feelings about it, but I don’t want it on mine. 



What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Bin 303, Zanata, Charlie’s, Standard Service



What do you like to do in your free time?

Spend time with family and friends, exercise, read, shop, try new restaurants



What’s your favorite time of year?

I can’t pick! Summer is great because I love swimming, spending more time with my kids, vacations, and more relaxed schedules. Fall is great because of the cooler weather and I love the feel of new beginnings, such as a new school year. Winter is great because I enjoy cold weather and the holiday season. Spring is great because of the weather and sunshine. I also like the “end of year” celebrations and closures that come with the end of a school year. 



Tell us a little about your family.

I have been married for 22 years. We have an 18 year old daughter who is about to be a Senior and a 8 year old son. We have 2 dogs, 2 fish, and a hedgehog. 



What is your favorite place to visit?

Playa del Carmen, Hawaii



If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

Oprah. I think she would be fascinating to talk to and fun to spend time with. I watched her show for years and admired her authenticity. 



Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

Extroverted but being an only child, I have always valued my alone time as well. 



Counselor Spotlight - Dixie Webster, LPC-Associate Supervised by Lauren Coats, LPC-S

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Dixie Webster is one of the many LPC-Associates we have the privilege of supervising during their training here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. LPCs undergo an extensive training and internship process before becoming fully licensed to practice independently, and we are so grateful Dixie chose to do her associate work here. Her dedication to her patients is evident, and we can’t wait for you to know more about her!


Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

Counseling is actually my second career. Previously I worked as the Global Director of Training and Compliance for a large corporation. A few years ago, I felt God leading me to do something more intimate and personal in my work. I was strongly influenced by missions and volunteer work that involved serving survivors of domestic violence and the sex slave trade. I developed a deep passion for working with traumatized individuals and supporting them in their recovery journey. This led to a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Grand Canyon University in Arizona. I feel incredibly blessed to have been accepted into the practice at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness for my practicum and internship and I have continued on as a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate. I am on track to complete full licensure by spring of 2024. 


What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am passionate about helping people to overcome the impact of past trauma, abuse, and neglect in all forms. Recently I have been working specifically with attachment wounds. I am amazed at the significant impact unhealthy attachment can have on adult relationships. However, I am also hopeful as I see the results that can be achieved when we find healing. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I would be teaching or educating in some way. I love to collaborate and share information. I feel like our community becomes stronger when we share what we know with each other. I love seeing people get the tools they need to be successful. It is something I do as a counselor, but I find myself constantly sharing and teaching others in all aspects of my life. 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

Almost every client I see is stuck in their fight or flight cycle. Their bodies are constantly sensing threats from the world around them, but they don’t know how to stop the cycle and return to a sense of safety. This results in a pervasive sense of impending doom for many people, and they live in a constant state of anxiety and stress or depression as a result. One of the most important skills I teach is helping clients to stop the threat response and reengage their logical processing systems. 


Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My husband, Scott Webster. He is an amazing man in so many ways. More than anyone else in my life he has taught me the values of integrity, dedication, perseverance, and communication. These values have led to success in life but also incredible personal healing in relationships. 

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Stop chasing acceptance from people. Everyone has their own idea of what is good enough and I have learned over the years that you will never be able to please everyone. It is absolutely exhausting and defeating to chase the ever-changing standards of the world. Instead, I recognize that I am a beloved daughter of God created by him to serve a purpose. When I discovered and embraced my God-given purpose and embraced the acceptance I have in Him it gave me incredible freedom. 


What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

Like most things in life, you get out of therapy what you put into it. Come into it prepared to dig deep and do the work of self-discovery and change. If you are willing to do that, the things you can learn are life-altering and priceless. We invest in so many things that we look at five years later and toss out because we aren’t using them anymore. Why not invest in yourself in a way that gives you a shot at living a healthier life with stronger relationships?  That is rarely something you regret.


Are you a dog person or a cat person?

I am a cat person. My cat Giovanni has more personality and spunk than any other kitty I have owned. I also find a cat sitting in your lap warm and purring to be incredibly therapeutic, so he is very good for me. 


Do pineapples belong on pizza?

I’m more equal opportunity when it comes to food. I like all types of food and will try all kinds of combinations of flavors. The only thing I can’t do is curry – bad experience when traveling to India – don’t ask. 


What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

I love to eat at Zanatas. The food is always fantastic, and I am able to find healthy options there. 

What do you like to do in your free time?

I love to read, and I crochet when I need to keep my hands busy. I also enjoy swimming laps. It is a great relaxing exercise. 

What’s your favorite time of year?

Definitely Autumn. I love the colors, the cool crisp air, the smells of fall leaves and warm spices. There is nothing better than a cool evening in front of the firepit with a cup of hot chocolate. 


Tell us a little about your family.

I already mentioned my amazing husband, but we also have two wonderful children. Samantha is my oldest and she is married to Greg, a Navy Corpsman, and they have three boys (Gregory, Caspar, and Griffin ) that are full of energy and life. They live in Jacksonville; Florida and they love it there. Timothy is my youngest and I am grateful that he and his wife Katherine are here local. They also have three wonderful kids, 2 boys (Charlie and Jack) and the one little princess of the bunch (Dusty Rose). 


What is your favorite place to visit?

My husband and I went to Fiji for our 25th wedding anniversary and it was absolutely amazing. We ended up at a quiet resort that was so peaceful we didn’t want to come home. I have to say the most amazing thing about Fiji though is the people. They are wonderful!


If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

Corrie ten Boom. Her book, “The Hiding Place” had a profound impact on me when I was young and shaped my ideas of holding on to your faith in the face of adversity. I love this quote from her about love and I find it to be true in my practice.

“Do you know what hurts so very much? It's love. Love is the strongest force in the world, and when it is blocked that means pain. There are two things we can do when this happens. We can kill that love so that it stops hurting. But then of course part of us dies, too. Or we can ask God to open up another route for that love to travel.” -Corrie ten Boom


Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

I am a quiet extrovert. I love engaging with people and that is where I get my energy, but I prefer intimate one on one or small group settings to large parties or crowds. 



More Than Just Games

Just like adults, children also benefit from therapy. Whether they are working through difficult emotions such as grief, coping with their parents’ divorce, needing to gain problem solving skills or coping tools, or struggling socially at school, therapy can be an excellent tool for parents to help their children through these challenges and many more. Working with children in therapy presents a unique set of circumstances. Often children, especially very young children, may not know exactly what they are struggling with or they may not have the vocabulary to communicate the emotions they’re feeling. One mode of therapy that can be incredibly helpful with these barriers to treating children is utilizing the help of a Registered Play Therapist. 

Registered Play Therapists do not merely see patients in a playroom, although this can be part of their treatment plans. The Association for Play Therapy distinguishes that Play Therapy is “the systematic use of a theoretical model to establish an interpersonal process wherein trained Play Therapists use the therapeutic powers of play to help clients prevent or resolve psychosocial difficulties and achieve optimal growth and development." So while spontaneous play is a part of the play therapy model, Play Therapy is much more complex and is based in research and clinical practice. 


What you can expect in play therapy

Your child’s play therapy session will vary based on what issue your child is working through. If your child is struggling with outbursts of anger, for example, the therapist may work with them on identifying that anger through role playing or make believe games. Then they may work toward giving them a healthy outlet for anger such as throwing soft toys or using an inflatable punching bag. However, if your child is working through the loss of a loved one, the RPT may allow your child to color pictures or play with dolls and allow the topic to come up naturally. 

You can also trust that working with an RPT will mean that your child is receiving therapy that uses a systemic approach. RPTs will use either a directed methodology in which they set up specific activities for a child based on goals they’re trying to achieve or they will use a non-directive approach which is more child-centered. Directive sessions are typically used for a child who is dealing with issues that need a more immediate solution. For example, if a child is struggling with problem solving, getting stuck when he or she has to do something themselves, the RPT may set up a session in which the child has to solve several problems such as reaching something on a shelf by using a stool. Or, if they are working on social skills the therapist may set up a session in which they use dolls or action figures to act out different social settings and talk about how to interact with peers and other people. Child-centered sessions will likely focus on more big picture issues:  dealing with grief or loss, anxiety, or other ongoing emotional struggles. In this type of approach, children can be given options for how they would like to play and by reflecting what the child is doing and how they are playing, they can help the child identify what they feel and why. 

OTHER FAQs

How long does a play therapy session last?

45-50 minutes is typical, but it may be longer or shorter depending on the age and needs of the child. The therapist will work with you to determine the best length of session for your child.

What issues can this help with?

As mentioned before, children can work through grief, anger, or other emotions at play therapy. Additionally, RPTs can help kids gain new social skills, work on coping skills for ADHD, OCD, anxiety, or depression. They can also help children cope with transitions in life that can be difficult such as divorce or a new sibling. 

Will I be a part of my child’s session?

This will also depend on the child’s age and his or her needs. Often, parents are asked to be part of play therapy sessions, but it can also be a distraction to the child. The therapist will work with you to determine what is appropriate and best for your child. 

What ages of children can participate in play therapy?

Most of the time RPTs will see children aged 3-12.

What if my child doesn’t enjoy “playing?” 

Play therapists understand that not every child, especially as they get older, may want to play typical games or with the same types of toys. RPTs are trained in how to use the same methodology in a wide variety of ways. They can sketch with older kids or play board games. They also often use reading books to implement the same strategies. 

Here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness, we have several practitioners who specialize in Play Therapy. Natalie Shepherd, LPC-S, LMFT-S, RPT-S, Katheryn Chaney, LCSW-S, RPT-S, and Juliana Long, LPC, RPT are all Registered Play Therapists who are passionate about helping their patients achieve new goals and work through emotions or difficult times in their lives. At our Heath location, we have a dedicated Play Therapy room, set up especially to see patients working with one of our Play Therapists. We believe this type of therapy is so much more than just games. It is a way to empower children to identify their emotions, face challenges and cope with life’s difficulties. Learning these things at an early age truly sets children up to be healthy adults who know how to communicate and ask for help when they need it. If your child is struggling with any of the above mentioned issues or if you’re curious as to how Play Therapy might help your child, click the link below to book a call with one of our RPTs to learn more. 


Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight - Megan Young, LCSW

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Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would love for you to meet Megan Young, LCSW! Megan is passionate about helping those processing trauma, and we are so thankful to have her as part of our team. Get to know Megan a little more below!


Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I received my undergrad in Psychology and Crime and Justice Studies in 2005 from UTD with a fascination in human behavior.  I had this idea of being a forensic psychologist.  I started working at Children's Health in inpatient psychiatry in 2012 where I gained a huge amount of clinical experience working with multiple different disciplines and psychiatric concerns. From there, I received my Master's in Social Work in 2018, and was offered a position at the Children's Advocacy Center of Kaufman County where I interned as a clinical therapist.  The experience added to my clinical foundation in trauma counseling, as well as working with an entirely new group of professionals. 

We have only lived in the Rockwall area since 2017, before that we were in McKinney; but I am originally from <gasp> California! I have lived in Texas for 30 years, so surely you won't count that against me (lol, I love Cali though).


What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why? 

I am most passionate about trauma counseling with children, adolescents, and adults.  Trauma comes in many different forms, which will repeatedly play out in a person's life until they process the trauma in a healthy way. Overcoming trauma is critical to living a healthy, happy life. 


If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?  

I feel like I have it made. There are challenging aspects of my job, but I get to sit and talk to people about their lives and experiences all day long.  I guess if I had to do something else, I would run a boat marina on a lake or ocean. 


What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?  

I think what resonates with all of my clients regardless of age is their struggle with self-worth and seeing the good within themselves. 


Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?  

My dad.  He went through a lot in his life, but always tried to be positive.  He was a police officer for 29 years, and he epitomized unconditional love and acceptance of all people, regardless of their circumstances. 


What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?  

You deserve to be happy.  


What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?  

Therapy can be hard and scary. You are basically being vulnerable to a complete stranger; but growth comes from vulnerability. 


Are you a dog person or a cat person?  

Both.


Do pineapples belong on pizza?  

They are not a requirement, but I do like them on pizza.


What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?  

Standard Service.


What do you like to do in your free time?  

Gardening, boating, taking trips, hanging with friends and family. 


What’s your favorite time of year?  

So, I love the changing of every season; but my favorite time of year is the Christmas season.


Tell us a little about your family.  

I live in the area with my husband, 17 year old daughter,13 year old son, and 2 dogs.  They keep me very busy!


What is your favorite place to visit?  

I have no shame in saying I am a Disney adult, but if Disney is not on the agenda you can find me at the beach or the mountains. 


If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?  

Bargaining is a stage of grief. I would give anything to have one more dinner with my dad. 


Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?  

I am an ambivert: introverted in new situations, but I will open up if I am comfortable with the people.  In recent years, I have definitely become more aware of my need to recharge my social battery.



Counselor Spotlight - Andrew Hillis, LPC

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Rockwall Counseling and Wellness is proud to feature Andrew Hillis, LPC in this week’s counselor spotlight. Andrew has been with Rockwall Counseling and wellness since February of 2020, and we are so glad he’s part of our team here! For more information on his practice or to book with Andrew, click the link at the bottom of this blog post. 

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area? 

I am a Fort Worth native and earned my Bachelor’s degree from Texas Christian University in Psychology and Political Science in 2007. Following graduation, I worked for a few years at the University of Texas at Dallas, Center for BrainHealth as a research coordinator, lab manager, and research assistant for various fMRI research studies. While I thoroughly enjoyed the type of research I was involved in, I decided to follow the clinical route and began attending the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, School of Health Professions for my Master’s degree in Rehabilitation Counseling. During graduate school and for several years afterwards, I worked in private practice settings around the Dallas area. In 2019 I moved to Rockwall with my wife, and I joined Rockwall Counseling and Wellness in February of 2020. 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why? 

I am passionate about any type of therapy that helps someone. Finding the right combination of treatment modalities and approaches that will provide opportunities for an individual to improve mental, emotional, and physical functioning in their life is my overall goal and objective in counseling. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing? 

Actually, I do have another profession. I own a fine art photography company with my wife, Blair. Photography has been a passion of mine for many years and I absolutely love sharing my work for others to enjoy! We recently participated in the Main Street Fort Worth Arts Festival and are featured artists in the upcoming Deep Ellum Community Arts Fair and Allen Arts Festival this year. Check us out! https://linktr.ee/hillisphotography 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is? 

The uncertainties in life. 

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why? 

My family, because they have guided, taught, forgiven, provided for and loved me unconditionally. 

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Cherish every moment. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money? 

Therapy can be worth the time and money, but it is important to find the right counselor/therapist for you. In order to heighten your chances of doing so, make the time to research various providers before scheduling your intake appointment. Take advantage of services such as free phone consultations, like the ones we offer at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. Try to find out about the therapist’s experience and education, time in practice, and preferred therapy modalities and specialties. Don't forget though, as is the case with improving physical health, progress with mental health also requires you to dedicate and invest the necessary time, energy, and effort towards achieving your goals. Above all, when you begin therapy, be patient and believe in yourself. 

Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

I think both types of animals are great, but I am dog person and  have 2 incredible dogs, Finn & Bailey! 

Do pineapples belong on pizza? 

Yes, but it also depends on the other toppings. 

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall? 

RGAC, Tokyo Hana, The Downing Bottles & Bites, RamenHead(pickup) 

What do you like to do in your free time? 

Spending time with my family, traveling, and photography. 

What’s your favorite time of year? 

Fall and Winter 

Tell us a little about your family. 

My wife, Blair, worked in accounting for almost 12 years and is now doing her dream job as a Realtor. We have an amazing son named Brooks who is almost 3 yrs old and the light of our lives. And to round out our family, we have the best dogs, Finn and Bailey. 

What is your favorite place to visit? 

Northern Ireland and Colorado 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?  

Mixture of both. 

Counselor Spotlight - Katheryn Chaney, LCSW-S, RPT-S

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Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would like for you to get to know Katheryn Chaney. A Rockwall ISD alum, Katheryn has been a therapist for nearly two decades. Specializing in work with trauma survivors, Katheryn’s experience and compassion are incredibly valued here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. To book a session with Katheryn, click the link at the bottom of the post!

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I have been a therapist for 18 years. I started out at Texas Tech University and completed my degrees at Texas A&M University-Commerce. Both my undergraduate degree and Masters degree are in Social Work. I graduated from High School in Rockwall (a long time ago!), then moved to the Austin area for several years after receiving my education, then returning and settling in Forney, Texas in 2000 where my husband and I began raising our family. Up until I came to Rockwall Counseling and Wellness, I had worked for non-profit organizations in the area of adoption, foster care, and child advocacy. I spent some time in education both in the public school setting and University setting as a clinical instructor in the School of Social Work at Texas A&M University-Commerce. 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am most passionate about working with trauma survivors, children and adults. We all have a story worth telling and that story deserves to be honored and heard. I have been trained in EMDR and am certified in Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, both evidenced based practices which offer hope and healing to individuals healing from traumatic experiences. I have a special place in my heart for individuals healing from childhood sexual abuse. I am also passionate about play therapy and have been a registered Play Therapist and supervisor for many years as well (RPT-S). It's very rewarding hearing a child's story through their play and interaction with the world around them. It's amazing what we can learn from children if we just listen and join their world, real or imaginary.

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

The job I would want if I wasn't doing my dream job already would be a doctor or a nurse. I have always been drawn to helping professions and this seems a natural fit for me! 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

Let's face it, LIFE IS HARD and bad things happen that we are not quite prepared for and oftentimes feel completely overwhelmed by.  It helps to have someone who sees this challenge and is willing to face it with us. When bad things in our life happen, we can sometimes formulate unhealthy and unhelpful internal dialogue as a result. I love helping my clients sort this out and formulate more accurate self talk which can be empowering and life changing! What we tell ourselves matters. I like to make sure what my clients are telling themselves is accurate, helpful and empowering. 

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I have had many people in my life who have made a significant imprint on my life and practice. Professionally speaking, I would have to say I have been most influenced by the practice of Dr. Gary Landreth at the University of North Texas Center for Play Therapy most and aspire to provide the same safe space for my clients as he has for his.

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself and move on. I would spend much less time people pleasing and more time investing in me and my relationships. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

It is so worth it! Investing in yourself is what healthy people do. It's never too late to take care of you. If you are not okay, the other important roles in your life will suffer. You are worth the investment!

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

Definitely a dog person! We currently have a micro mini goldendoodle named "Ruby" and she is one of the loves of my life. We are currently training her as a therapy dog, so hopefully very soon she'll be joining me in the office.

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

I guess if you like pineapples, sure! Who am I to judge, LOL! I can't say I've ever had pineapple on my pizza, but I would be willing to try it.

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

My favorite Rockwall spot is probably Mi Cocina or Zanata! 

What do you like to do in your free time?

I don't have much free time as a working mom of three very active girls, but when I do, I love spending time on the lake or playing outside with my family. We love vacationing and adventures of all kinds. 

What’s your favorite time of year?

Summer is definitely my favorite time of year. Sunshine is so good for the soul and just makes me so happy.

Tell us a little about your family.

I have been married to my college sweetheart, Chad for 25 years this August! We have three beautiful girls ranging in age from 20 to 10. They are definitely the best thing we've ever done. 

What is your favorite place to visit?

We are pretty simple people and love the lake! We've been blessed to visit some pretty cool places as a family, but our favorite place to be is the lake. We love boating, surfing, and spending time outside. Lake life is the best life!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

I would want to have dinner with my mother-in-law, Lynda Chaney. I didn't get enough time with her as my mother-in-law, as she passed away in 2000 just two years after my husband and I married. She was beautiful inside and out, and I have lots of questions. She was patient and kind, and I so admired her. It's beautiful to see some of her best qualities come to life in my husband. She definitely made her mark on him and for that I am grateful. 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

There are times I am super extroverted, typically with my oldest and best friends, LOL and there are times I tend to be more introverted.  I am a deep thinker, oftentimes overthinking things. I would say I am a good mix of both. 

Counselor Spotlight - Jordan Clipson, LMFT-Associate; Supervised by Monica Urbaniak, LMFT-S

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Rockwall Counseling and Wellness would like to take an opportunity for you to get to know Jordan Clipson, one of our marriage and family therapy associates. Jordan is such an amazing asset to our team, and we know her clients are thankful for her expertise and compassion! If you’re interested in booking a session with Jordan, click the link at the bottom of this post to get connected with her!

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I always had interest in and gravitated towards careers related to social services and ultimately discovered Marriage and Family Therapy in the beginning of college and immediately knew that was the path for me. I graduated from Kansas State University with a Bachelors in Family Studies and Human Services with a minor in Conflict Resolution and Trauma Studies and an additional certification in Conflict Resolution. I then went onto to Oklahoma State University where I earned a Masters in HDFS, Marriage and Family Therapy. I am originally from El Campo, TX though I moved to Paris, TX in middle school and now currently live in Paris. 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am most drawn to working with couples. Everyone deserves a healthy, supportive and loving relationship and it is the greatest honor to assist my clients in creating that relationship for themselves. I love making my sessions a comfortable and even fun environment to discuss the most vulnerable of issues and erase the stigma around couple’s therapy. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I would absolutely be a cosmetologist. They get to spend their day creating long standing relationships with their clients and being creative in their work. It would be much more standing than I do now, but it has always seemed fun and rewarding! 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

For my couples, most always cite communication as their biggest issue. Which makes so much sense, the dynamic in which we communicate impacts every aspect of our relationship (finances, parenting, intimacy, in-laws etc). Though, I find people typically communicate just fine it is empathetic listening that they may struggle with and that may perpetuate problems.

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I look up to my mom the most. She wouldn’t agree, but I feel like she could write a book on parenting because she is so incredible at it. I hope that one day I can be half as empathetic, supportive, fun and guiding as she has been to me. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

The thought of starting therapy can be so scary or overwhelming for many reasons, so I would validate having reservations. Therapy is also a big investment for a lot of people. Though, investing in healing your trauma, strengthening your mental well-being, and bettering yourself as a parent or partner may be the best money you ever spend.

Are you a dog person or a cat person?

I am 100% a cat person. I have a big, grumpy white cat named Georgie and he is just the best.

Do pineapples belong on pizza?

Pineapple on pizza is a crime and waste of a perfectly good pizza.

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall?

Ramen Head hands down!!!

What do you like to do in your free time?

I play a lot of golf, spend time with friends and family, love trying new recipes, crochet, pointed pen calligraphy, photography, travel, and recently just became a CASA advocate! Collecting hobbies is my hobby.

What’s your favorite time of year?

Summer! I love the warm weather and spending time by the water.

Tell us a little about your family.

I am one of 5 kids and come from a very large extended family. As well as several close friends that are family. Long term, close relationships are extremely important to me. 

What is your favorite place to visit?

I studied abroad in Italy during college and the Amalfi Coast was incredible. The views, the food, the people. Close second would be the U.S. Virgin Islands. 

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why?

Ruth Bader Ginsburg. I admire her life’s work as an advocate and trailblazer for women. 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both?

I would say I am an extrovert. I love being social and feel energized around others. I love meeting new people and making new friends!

Mental Health Misinformation

Social media can be such a great resource for people looking to learn more about mental health or improve themselves relationally. It is so positive to see that society is more aware of and sensitive to mental health issues and that resources are more readily available to those that seek help. But as with anything else on the internet, we have to be cautious and aware of where we get our information. There are so many posts made about how to identify toxic relationships, how to set boundaries, or even identifying narcissism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent diagnoses. So, how can we be sure that the advice and information we take in is reliable and true? There are a few things you can look for when taking in social media posts or website information about mental health and well-being. By being aware of these warning signs, you can avoid being misled by well-intentioned, or even not-so-well-intentioned posts.

Avoid taking advice from an unlicensed person. This may seem very simple, but in reality, it can be deceiving. Often, you may come across people sharing their personal mental health journeys through social media, but just because they are talking about setting boundaries or therapy techniques, does not mean they’re licensed to advise you. If you see a video or post that you connect with, go to the profile that shared it originally and look to find their credentials. Are they a licensed professional counselor? Is it from a life coach or social worker? These are some of the credentials that you may want to make sure someone has before trusting the advice or information they share. 

Consider the motivation for sharing the information. Because so much of the internet is monetized, even some mental health professionals earn income from sharing about selected products, promoting their own books, or displaying brands they’ve partnered with. There is nothing inherently wrong with this. The internet definitely provides opportunities for people to earn extra money through this type of posting. But if a post is implying that you “need” a book or product in order to “fix” your problem, it is probably a post and a profile to avoid, especially if this is the only type of content they post. 

Be wary of posts that use absolute language. In life, it’s good in general to avoid absolutes. Very rarely is something “always” or “never” true. For example, if a social media account says that something is “always a sign of depression” or “always a character trait of a narcissist” it may be language they’re using to attract more views or clicks. 

Be cognizant of how social media algorithms work. So while we won’t go into the indepth version of how social media decides what to show us, the short version is this:  the more you see of a certain type of post, the more you will see that type of post. If you start following a Christian mental health professional, Instagram is going to show you Reels or posts from other Christian mental health professionals. If you watch a video about setting boundaries with your adult children, you’re more likely to see other videos on the same topic. The reason this can be problematic is that all of a sudden, you may find yourself surrounded by posts that have you questioning what you know about yourself. As humans, we’re very susceptible to the power of suggestion. It’s the same reason that when you buy a new car, you start to see that same model car everywhere you go. If you see 10 videos talking about symptoms of depression, you’re probably more likely to wonder if you’re depressed. Be sure to check-in with yourself often, so you know what you’re really feeling and thinking as opposed to what you’re being exposed to.

Be selective in the accounts you follow. There is so much content out in the world, and I think we can all agree that not all of it serves us well. If you find yourself frustrated by what you’re seeing in your feed, disagreeing with it, or triggered by it in any way, unfollow the account. If you come across a video that doesn’t align with your own beliefs and values, click “see less of this” to remove it from your search pages for the future. Just because you come across it, doesn’t mean you have to engage with it or give it space on your feed. 

Keep in mind that what you follow on social media should be a supplement to your mental health work, not a replacement for it.  The ease of watching a free, short, 90-second video that addresses the problem you’re having has huge appeal. I mean, why sit through a challenging therapy session when you could just scroll through Instagram? Because the two are not the same. If you truly want to lose weight or get in shape, you’d never be able to accomplish that simply by following fitness influencers. If you want to learn to play piano, you can’t accomplish this just by watching videos of pianists. In order to change and grow, you have to put in the work. Learning to cope with anxiety, depression, grief, self-esteem issues or working on your relationships is just that - work. And while you may be able to gain inspiration or encouragement from the pages you follow and the posts you like, it can’t replace sitting down with a licensed professional, learning how to better yourself, and implementing what you learn. If you’re ready to take your mental health journey off your phone and into a session, click the link below to connect with one of our Rockwall area therapists. 


Written by Emily Taylor, Contributing Writer

Counselor Spotlight - Maddie Falk, LPC

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We’d love to introduce you to Maddie Falk, LPC. Maddie works out of our Heath office. We are so grateful for her wisdom and passionate care for her clients. Check out her answers to our interview questions to learn more about Maddie and her practice!

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

 I attended Dallas Baptist University and received my undergraduate degree in Communication as well as my Masters in Counseling. I did not grow up in the Rockwall area but I have loved every moment of living here! 

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

 I am passionate about helping moms find their footing as they navigate postpartum issues and finding balance in their new role. I also enjoy helping clients process things from the past and walk with them on the journey to emotional healing. 

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

  I would love to be an author. I have had several small poems and articles published from the time I was in elementary school through my adult years. I hope to write a book someday! 

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

 A big struggle I’ve noticed is difficulty processing painful emotions and negative self talk. 

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

I look up to my parents because of their love and care for others. They are intentional and servant hearted and have a positive impact on everyone they meet.  

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

 Go visit your grandparents more. Soak in their stories and perspective. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

Therapy opens the door to healing through being seen, felt, and validated and is 100% worth it! I’ve never heard anyone say they regret going to therapy.

Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

Dog person 100%! I have 2 large goldendoodles. 

Do pineapples belong on pizza? 

Absolutely not. 

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall? 

Zanata!! 

What do you like to do in your free time? 

I love to run! I ran a marathon in 2020 and have run 10+ half marathons.

What’s your favorite time of year? 

Fall. I love the nice weather and watching the leaves change. 

Tell us a little about your family.

I have been married for almost 7 years and have an adorable and adventurous 17 month old. 

What is your favorite place to visit?  

I love the mountains, we have hiked in Oregon, Colorado, California, and Washington. 

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why? 

I would like to have dinner with Fred Rogers. He was an incredibly kind and intentional individual and I would love to learn from him. 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both? 

I am the only extrovert in my family. Motherhood has helped me appreciate alone time a little bit more! 

Counselor Spotlight: Kelly Hawkins, LPC

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This week we’d like to introduce you to Kelly Hawkins, LPC. Kelly is a valued member of our team who specializes in helping those with anxiety, depression, and trauma processing. We’re so thankful for the work Kelly does with her clients! If you’re interested in booking with Kelly, click the button at the bottom of her interview. 

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I attended Texas A&M University and got a Bachelor of Arts in Communication with a minor in Psychology. After A&M, I attended Dallas Theological Seminary and got a Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling; I am from College Station, TX.

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am most passionate about working with people with depression, anxiety, and trauma. I love this Eleanor Roosevelt quote “It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself.” I have seen the benefit of counseling firsthand in my own life, as well as my clients. It is one of my greatest honors to be able to walk with people through all of life’s highs and lows.

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I already have another job that I love! I am a mom to my two babies (ages 3 and 1).

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

The world feels heavy these days. You don’t have to look far or hard to see or hear of all of the brokenness and pain - in our city, our country, and our world. Technology and social media gives us access to so much, but also overwhelms our brain and gives ammunition for toxic and negative thoughts. Many people are still feeling the effects of COVID. “We don’t have to do it all alone. We were never meant to”. -Brene Brown

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

My parents. They both have been through traumatic experiences - my dad was a widower at age 43 and my mother went through a hard divorce. They both struggled in the midst of their grief, but I am a product of their healing. In the midst of suffering and darkness, sometimes we need to be reminded there is light and hope coming.

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

No one thinks of you as much as you think of you. 

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

We all want to find value in what we prioritize with our time and money. Therapy is an investment —  an investment in yourself! The effects of therapy can be felt/seen by  everyone around you, even generations. One of the greatest indicators of success in counseling is the connection you have with your therapist, so use the free phone consultation and find the right fit for you!

Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

Dog! I have two black labs and would love to get a therapy dog someday!

Do pineapples belong on pizza? 

Absolutely!

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall? 

Bin 303!

What do you like to do in your free time?

Read a good book, watch a show, and hang out with my family.

What’s your favorite time of year?

Fall

Tell us a little about your family.

I have been married to my husband Cody for almost 10 years. We currently have two children - one girl and one boy!

What is your favorite place to visit? 

We lived in Virginia for 3 years and we love to go back to visit every year. Bonus points if it is Fall right after the leaves change!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why? 

This is so random, but I am currently obsessed with King Henry VIII, so probably Anne Boleyn! 

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both? 

I’ve been told that I am an outgoing introvert. 

Counselor Spotlight - Dawn Nelson, LCSW-Supervisor

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We would love to introduce you to Dawn Nelson, LCSW-Supervisor. Dawn was one of the first counselors to join Rockwall Counseling and Wellness, and we’re so glad she’s part of the team here!

Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

I grew up in San Antonio; I’m a fifth generation Texan.  I attended the University of Texas at Austin where I earned a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and English and a Master of Science in Social Work.

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I individualize treatment for my clients by blending therapy modalities to fit their unique needs.  Just as you wouldn’t want a doctor that only prescribes one medicine for all illnesses, therapists should use what will be most beneficial for their clients, not just one therapeutic modality.

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

Librarian!  I love books.

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

People tend to recycle the same issues whether in their own heads or in relationships.  They do the best they can, but they come to me when their efforts haven’t provided a good resolution for them.

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation so potential clients can get an idea of how I envision working with them.  I do not require a minimum number of sessions because I believe that each client works at his/her own pace.  Some clients come weekly, others attend every other week, and a few even less often than that.

Counselor Spotlight - Lauren Coats, LPC, Rockwall Counseling and Wellness Owner

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We will be featuring our first counselor spotlight, starting with Lauren Coats, the owner of Rockwall Counseling and Wellness. We hope these counselor spotlights allow you to learn a little bit more about each of the members of the staff here at Rockwall Counseling and Wellness in the hopes that as you seek out a counselor to start your therapy journey with, you have an idea of who they are, their backgrounds, and what their passions in counseling are.

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Tell us a little about your journey to becoming a counselor. Where did you go to school? What are your degrees in? Are you originally from the Rockwall area?

 I went to Texas A&M University for my undergraduate degree in Interdisciplinary Studies (Go Aggies!) and Texas A&M-Commerce for my Masters in Counseling. I am originally from Mesquite, TX and have lived in Rockwall for 15 years now!

What type of therapy are you most passionate about? Why?

I am most passionate about Affair Recovery because I love to see marriages restored after heartbreak. It is very rewarding work and I believe it impacts generations as their children are impacted by the change they see in their own parents' relationship. Another area I love working with is parents of teenagers and adolescents. As a former 6th grade teacher and a mother of four, I understand how difficult parenting this generation is and I love to provide parents with tools to enhance their relationships with their children.

If you could have any job besides the one you have now, what would you want to be doing?

I actually tell people all the time that I really am doing what I love the most! I knew when I was a teacher that it was in the right vein, but not my exact calling. Becoming a therapist and working with other therapists is the place where my talents and passion intersect.

What do you feel the biggest struggle facing your clients is?

I wholeheartedly believe that the biggest struggle facing my clientele is their own toxic thinking about themselves. Most of us talk more poorly and negatively to ourselves than to any other human. We can't even imagine telling our kids or a friend some of the mean statements we tell ourselves.

Who in your life do you most look up to? Why?

For the longest time I said Oprah...and while that's no longer my answer, I think it was because even as a teenager and young adult I loved how she seemed to ask her guests such incredible questions that cut to the core of the issue. She was a therapist of sorts and I really admired how she was able to get people to open up. I think my new answer is my mother. The older I've gotten the more appreciation I've gained for her sacrifices for me as a kid. She was always a good listener, she doesn't take herself too seriously, and I've truly never seen her offended. She loves life and I am so thankful she's my mom!

What is one piece of advice you would give your younger self?

Oh man, if I could go back to my teenage or young adult self I would tell her that she's perfectly fine to be a strong, capable woman. She spent a little too much time worrying that her strong personality and opinions would offend and thought it should be reserved for the boys and men. I'd tell her that being a woman is a gift and she should own her particular skills!

What would you say to someone who is considering starting therapy, but doesn’t know if it’s worth the time or money?

If someone is wondering if it's not worth the time or money, I'd assume they care a deep amount about the other people in their life, but maybe not themselves. I can't think of any investment that will impact your kids and family like your own personal therapy. If you want to be a better version of yourself you can be pretty certain that it will positively impact the other people in your life. If you don't think you're worth it, perhaps they are! And after therapy, I think you'll realize you were worth it all along as well.

Are you a dog person or a cat person? 

Cat person all the way! We have 2 cats and I've had so many cats in my lifetime.

Do pineapples belong on pizza? 

YES! Not always, but when I'm in the mood for them, absolutely!

What’s your favorite place to go out to eat in Rockwall? 

I have so many local favs: Zanata, Bin 303, Oar House, and Casa Mama to name a few!

What do you like to do in your free time? 

READ -- I love a good book!

What’s your favorite time of year? 

Summer for sure!

Tell us a little about your family.

I've been married to Casey for 15 years, we have 4 children -- 2 girls and 2 boys. Our youngest joined our family through adoption in 2019 and we had a blast touring her home country of China for 19 days!

What is your favorite place to visit? 

Italy! I've only been once in 2007, but had the opportunity to study abroad there for a month and fell in love. I can't wait to go back with my husband in the future!

If you could have dinner with one person, living or dead, who would it be and why? 

I think it may be Oprah!

Are you more introverted, extroverted, or a mixture of both? 

100% EXTROVERT